Life’s a Journey…
Life’s a Journey…
Once I started to see that life’s a journey, rather than a desperate attempt to reach destination ‘Happiness’ I saw a huge shift in my mindset. Essentially I stopped searching for that ‘quick fix’.
A very insightful woman taught me that there are three stages in life;
I am not enough
This is where most people are; living with self-doubt, feelings of low self-worth and acting from a place of fear (all things I will cover in later posts!)
I’ve had enough
This is the point of change and if you’re reading this then you’re probably here. Knowing that life doesn’t need to be tough and hard work, but feeling a bit lost about how to change things.
I love myself, I am enough
I’m a recent member of this club – a continuous journey of self-discovery!
The good old days before sat navs…
Remember life before we had sat navs and we used road maps?! We’d start our journey knowing three things;
- the destination
- a route
- an estimated time of arrival
But along the way we’d probably find some road works and need to take a diversion. We’d get stuck at a set of traffic lights for what seemed like ages, take the wrong turn and not realise for a mile and would then have to stop and ask for directions. Or we’d pull over, look at the signs for where we were, where we needed to be and how to get back on track. Eventually we’d find that nice open road which would lead us to our destination.
Life is no different to this journey, but we expect it to be an easy drive with no disruptions and get frustrated when things don’t go to plan. The funny thing is, it’s the journey that’s the most fun! It’s where we learn, change, grow and discover what’s really important to us, not what we think (or are told) is important. Sometimes we discover unexpected things along the way and sometimes the destination changes all together.
A lesson from a bike ride in France…
We recently went on holiday to France where my husband and I went exploring on some bikes. I started to get tired but my husband said ‘let’s keep going because there might be something amazing around the next corner.’ When we got there, there was a beautiful chateau surrounded by vineyards! It was truly stunning and suddenly I wasn’t tired anymore!
The point is that sometimes when we’re tired, the journey seems long and we want to turn back, we just need to keep going that little while longer because what’s around the corner is worth it!
How do we know if we’re on the right road? We listen to our body, to those ‘gut’ instincts which we all have but most of us choose to ignore because we follow the path we think we should. The mind body connection is a fascinating thing and is definitely a post for another day!
The ups and downs…
I also stopped thinking of life as being hard or easy, but instead as having its ups and downs. We all know we have to climb to the top of the hill to get the best views, so why should life be different?
My husband is a keen mountain biker and absolutely loves downhills! So it doesn’t bother him when his legs are tired climbing the long, steep hill, because he knows there’s an awesome downhill on the otherside!!
What should you take away from this?
Start viewing life as a journey and not a destination. Next time something doesn’t quite go to plan, ask yourself if you’re just stuck at some traffic lights? Or do you need to pull over and reassess where you are and where you want to be – are you on track? If not, look at the signs, and trust me there will be signs, we’re just too wrapped up in our own thinking that we don’t see them! But again, that’s another post for another day!
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