Why is Life Balance Important?
Why is Life Balance Important?
We’re all familiar with the term ‘work-life balance’ but what do we need to consider to fulfil the ‘life’ section? And why is ‘work-life’ balance just one component of overall life balance?
I’ve discovered that life balance is extremely important and plays a key part in happiness.
I decide to write a blog…
When I decided to write this blog in October, the passion, joy and enthusiasm I experienced was immense. The gut feeling that it was the right thing to do and that I was going to do it no matter what people told me, was amazing. I hadn’t felt like that for a long time.
But in November, I started to feel a bit out of sorts, not particularly bad, just a bit in limbo. The previous month had been pretty awesome and I guess a huge part of me was still trying to make sense of it all.
There had been a couple of weeks where I had been literally consumed by the thought of writing a blog. Content was just pouring out of me and on a few occasions I had actually pulled over whilst driving to write things down! The excitement kept me awake at night and my mind was going crazy with the endless possibilities.
I start to feel unsettled…
But I was finding that some of my old unsettled feelings started to resurface. I couldn’t understand initially because I was happy, ecstatic even, I had my passion back so why was I feeling unsettled? I knew my mind was going 100 miles an hour but it didn’t matter right? It’s only a problem if it happens with negative thoughts surely?
As the days went on, I found that the old feelings started to really show themselves. I become distracted, short tempered, engrossed in my own life and started to shut people out. I was really frustrated! I couldn’t figure out what was going wrong.
I slowly realised that all the great things I’d put in place had started to slip:
- I’d not been meditating as much and when I did I wasn’t really being present
- I’d stopped shutting off my computer and phone an hour before bed
- I’d not been present whilst walking my dog
- I’d not been present whist spending time with people
- I’d not given my mind a break to allow space for my creative thoughts
Instead, my subconscious had been working overtime as it had a new situation to deal with and had been frantically trying to ‘file’ all the new experiences. It had essentially issued a code red!
I realised that an important part of happiness is balance in all areas of our life. If one area is out of balance, for either good or bad, it will impact everything else. If we don’t pay enough attention to all the important areas of our life we start to feel frustrated and stressed.
Have you ever noticed that when you’re really focused on say, saving money, you eat crap?! Or whilst you’re totally dedicated to your fitness routine, you don’t see your friends as much?!
The reason is, we tend to throw all our attention in one area because we believe our happiness is derived from this one area. The truth is, happiness is found by having balance in all areas.
So what did I do?
I took a week off my blog which wasn’t bad seeing as though I’d not actually published anything yet!
I’ve developed a ‘go to’ list which covers all the key areas of my life so I directed my daily focus on this to get myself back on track. Achieving anything outside of my go to list was a bonus.
Once I felt back on track, I picked up my blog again with a more mindful attitude of balancing it with the other areas of my life.
What should you take away from this?
Balance is a key part of happiness and stops us from feeling frustrated and stressed.
Complete the following exercise to assist you in analysing how balanced your life is:
- Write down the following headings (these are the key life areas):
- Fun/play time
2. Rate each area out of 10 based on your satisfaction for that area.
3. Now take a look at the categories as a whole and ask:
- Why have I scored the way I have?
- How much time am I spending in each area?
- Which areas are my priorities?
- What would I like each area to look like?
4. Starting with the areas with the lowest scores ask:
- What changes can you make to gain more satisfaction in this area?
- How can you ‘measure’ this achievement? i.e. if you want to leave work earlier, can you measure it by saying ‘I will aim to leave 15 minutes earlier three times a week?’
You should now have a set of goals and an action plan on how to get more balance in your life – well done!
I’d love to hear how you got on with this exercise, what are your goals and actions? Please share in the comments below and I’m more than happy to help or discuss.
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